Updated: Apr 20, 2020
Happy First Day of Fall!
I love the first day of any season, it’s a fresh start with a new style, new hair, and if you’re anything like me, paler skin. You get to dust off those favorite boots and hit the streets rocking your best seasonal colors. Get. It.
If you haven’t read my last post, stop what you’re doing, hit the back button and give that post a quick read.
[Go ahead, it takes like 3 minutes. I’ll wait]
Welcome back! ;) I mention in that post that I’ve created an initiative, Stair Steps to Success. The purpose: to provide concrete action steps to help all my peeps reach new heights, literally . I know you have some big accomplishments coming your way, so I’m doing my part to get your fine self there. You deserve it.
Now let’s talk about that a little more. Everyone has dreams, right? Some of them stay locked up in our hearts forever without any thought of actual pursuit. Other dreams we go after because we know we can accomplish them. It’s that human nature thing to pursue what we are confident about, because we can obviously crush it and look good doing it.
In order to implement my fabulous stair steps, you have to have a dream, but I’m not talking about the easy stuff. I’m talking a big, glamorous, audacious dream. I know you have one. It’s that one you’ve hidden in the back of your mind for 13 years. It’s one you’ve fantasized about, but have been terrified to take action because, well there’s no guarantee how things will shake out!
Real talk, as far as we know, we only have one life to live; what’s the point in having these types of dreams if we never actually try to accomplish them? There’s no way of knowing how things are going to turn out, unless you don’t try.... Then you know for sure how it’s NOT going to turn out... So throw your hair up in a bun, put on some gansta rap, and get. to. work.
Write out this goal that’s been stalking you.
Guess what? By writing the thing down, you are ONE STEP CLOSER. Say whaaaaat?!
You heard me.
You’ve officially put it into your subconscious and it’s now at the top of that stair case. Bring on the action steps!
Story time: I’ve always wanted to be a model, since I can remember; but I’ve ALWAYS let my body image hold me back from that goal. It was top secret because I thought that I would look stupid to others if I shared what my dream was. Like people were just waiting for a reason to laugh at me and make me feel like an idiot for wanting to better myself… (narcissistic much?)
News flash: No one cares that much to judge you on your goals; they’re too busy being worried about their own. Also, who cares if they DO care? You aren’t doing this for them, you’re doing it for you. So do yourself a favor and put that little insecurity to bed right now; you don’t need that negativity in yo’ life.
Tangent over, back to the story: I took my own advice and wrote out this terrifying bully of a goal. Whew, glad I got that over with. A couple days later I saw an ad on instagram about a nationwide Plus Size Model Search.
[At the time I had been out of college for a couple years and my previous, collegiate-athlete body was nowhere to be found.]
Needless to say, I wasn’t feeling the best about my appearance, BUT it was a blessing in disguise because I qualified for this opportunity! I figured this had to have been a sign, so I went for it.
A couple days later I was informed that I had advanced into the next round and was invited to New York City for a casting call. I had never been to a casting call…. I had NO idea what I was doing (you’ll soon realize that’s the story of my life). But I love the city and decided there was no time like the present; so off I went!
There were hundreds of women at this casting call… I obviously didn’t know what to expect, but I didn’t realize I would be standing in a line for hours, surrounded by stunning women, waiting for a 30 second conversation with a panel of judges to sell them on why I deserved a shot. By the time I got in front of them, I was exhausted, confused, feeling totally out of my comfort zone, and weirdly lonely. I wish I could tell you how the audition went… I blacked out. What I do remember is they told me that they would “be in touch” and the finalists would be announced in a couple weeks. Cool, sounds promising *insert eye roll here*
A couple weeks later, there was this big video posted by the brand announcing the top 10 finalists in the nation and y’all… I was ONE OF THEM. I couldn’t believe it. I felt like I had just won Miss America. Before I knew it I was on a flight out to Chicago for a 3-day modeling workshop. I had the time of my life, met some incredible women whom I am still friends with today, and got my foot in the door with some serious modeling experience. I would have NEVER gotten to this point had I not decided to put that little voice in my head to rest and go for this goal.
So what is it for you? What have you secretly always wanted to do?
Once you get into the goal-crushing mindset, anything is possible, confidence is a guarantee, and before you know it you’ll be on your way to even bigger glamorous, audacious goals. Speaking of, my current venture is to compete for the title of Miss Idaho USA 2020. I’ve been in love with the pageant industry for over 15 years ad have competed on and off during that time. More on that later, but just know that this goal is a big one. A dream that I’ve had since I can remember and I’m FINALLY putting my best heal forward to get there, so stay tuned ;)
To sum it up: don’t be scared, write out your scary goal. That one little step gets you so much closer than you were 5 minutes ago. Besides, the only thing that you are GUARANTEED to regret is not giving it a shot. Do something epic in this one life that you have.
More action steps to follow, so don’t go too far.
With love and a sparkly goal in mind,
- Paige J.
The Rose Gold Queen